As someone who’s dealt with depression since they were 13 you’d think I’d have like a million ways to cope by now but truthfully, when my anxiety showed up at 19/20, the depression took a back seat. For so long in fact that sometimes I don’t even know I’m showing signs of depression unless someone points it out to me. And it always amazes me that my friends all the way in California, though they don’t see me every day, can still spot when I’m not myself. That’s the beauty of having people in your life who know you and who accept you exactly 100% as you are.
Lately I’ve had a hard time getting out of bed and end up not even getting up until 4pm just to get back in bed at 7 or 8. Like okay that’s enough life for today. The last time I pulled this shit I ended up dropping 80 pounds and a friend of mine had to literally pull me out of my apartment. But it was also around the time I had started taking Zoloft the first time.
I blamed Texas weird ass weather at first, which the weather here has sucked. It’s like a never ending fuckshit of winter. I’m over it. Then when I fly to Cali it’s perfect and 80 degrees.
I’m reminded of just how alone I am in Texas and wonder how did I put myself in this position. It’s not like it’s hard for me to make friends, at all. But it seems like most people I’ve run into in the years I’ve lived in Texas just haven’t been the best people or if they’re family members suddenly I’m fooling around with them. Bubba’s family has made my life a special kind of hell since I’ve moved here and I regret ever moving here to begin with.
I gave up my life of magic at Disney and beach days for this shit?!
Literally should had just moved back to California after I broke up with Nick, like I had planned to begin with. I also need to stop dating people who take me wanting to move back to California as just blasphemy because their hometown is “the best”. And they’ve never even lived anywhere else. I don’t know how someone comes up with that conclusion but it’s a thing people do.
I feel like since moving to Texas I’m completely forgotten who I am. I subconsciously tried to fit this mold of someone I wasn’t. Just to hopefully please people. Spoiler: didn’t work. I never understood what my friends were saying when they said I got soft until I set foot in NorCal and it’s like snap what have I been doing the last few years?!
Giving birth and suffering through postpartum depression while feeling completely isolated and alone was the worst and so freakin traumatic. To the point where I literally NEVER want to give birth again. I never want to go through that ever again. And I lost even more of myself for years. While the Zoloft helped, I couldn’t get my insurance to work something out enough for me to get help with therapy. And believe me, between PPD and losing my dad within months of each other? I desperately needed therapy. Zoloft isn’t easing my mind as good as it did the first time around, but I’m also not on the max dose.
I’m losing my train of thought… I thought putting on The Descendants would make me feel a little better. A little closer to Disney? Something? It’s kinda working.
7 thoughts on “Brain Dump | Depressed”
This was such an open and honest post. I’m sorry to hear depression is hurting you at the moment. 🙁 If you think Texas isn’t helping, then maybe really consider moving back to California? Do you have people there that know of your illness and can support you? That’s one of many things I’m sure you’ll need to consider. Wishing you the best. I xox
Yes! My friends and family are all from CA and a few of my friends also have OCD/anxiety so it helps because some of our habits are the same.
I’ve never felt so alone and isolated more than I do in TX and with dealing with PPD and the loss of my dad along with it… it was just A LOT. I truly think I need to work some of this out with therapy but my health insurance here is unhelpful with finding me a therapist within my network or something?!
I’m glad you’ve at least got some long-distance people who get you and accept you. I hope there is a way for you to be able to get back to California.
Me too. I guess I didn’t really realize just HOW MUCH support I had until I got back home. There’s always a way for me to get back, it’s just… when that’s the question.
Im also here in California. What part are you from?
I’m from San Francisco! How about you?
Originally from Alameda but now I’m living near Manteca 😁